Your relationship IS worth it!

For YEARS I struggled to justify paying for a babysitting.  I mean do we REALLY need to pay $10 an hour to some teenager to play with our kids while we go out for dinner and a movie?!?! It makes for a really expensive night when we could just watch Netflix and order pizza at home.  Plus, we could share a bottle of wine, not have to worry about driving and save a boat load of cash!   

The answer is YES!!! Because it's not about the money - it's about our relationship! 

And getting out of the house, away from the kids, the pile of dirty dishes in the sink or laundry that needs to be put away is important.  It truly gives you time to reconnect with your partner which so often we don't do nearly enough.    

Our " home date nights" use to mean putting on a movie that my husband would watch while I worked on my phone.  I would half watch and half scroll social media checking in with my clients and work on recruiting women to join my team or next challenge.  My husband became bitter (and rightfully so).  This was suppose to be our quality time together but I wasn't really  there.    

So now, we INVEST in our marriage with quality time together. 

This means getting out of the house, putting our devices down so we truly are present with each other.  We're uninterrupted by work, kids, to do lists or anything else that would distract us - so we are able to focus on US!  Because at the end of the day, our marriage and family is worth it and a few date nights cost way less than a divorce!  ;) 

I share this because I know SO many girlbosses who are struggling with their own relationships.  I know that phones and being glued to social media are bones of contention.  We feel like we have to be "connected and available" to our clients all the time just in case someone needs us.  But I want you to think about how it would feel if you were the other person on the couch who's partner wasn't there for them.  How do you think it would make you act if their coaches/clients/team were more important than you?   

None of us would like it! 

So rather than put your partner in that position - ladies it's time to own up to our behaviors and focus on some quality time with your man.  Get out of the house and do something fun together and unplug from your biz for a few hours.  Sure you can take a selfie and post about it - but do it afterwards okay!  ;)

With this little change, you'll be amazed at how his support for you while you hustle for your dreams will shift.  A little time to reconnect and some apprecaition for his support can go a long way in both your realtionship and your business!    

Nicole Santer